I am still in love with my boyfriend. It has been a year and a half since we dated. I have been with other guys, but I always find myself comparing them to him. Recently, I have had dreams about the good times we spent together and have been re-reading the letters he wrote me early on in our relationship. I know if we got back together we would immediately slip back into our comfort zone, but it ended for a reason and he moved. I don’t know what to do. Do I tell him, I still care about him or force myself to just forget?
Miss my ex
Dear Miss my ex,
You never fall out of love. Once you give your heart to another and reciprocate a mutual devotion, that feeling remains for the rest of your life. It is a rare and beautiful connection that people share and one that should be cherished and learned upon. It is not unhealthy to compare other guys to your ex, especially if he made such an emotional impact on your life.
Right now, you should focus on the positive. Don’t be afraid to remember the good parts of your time together. The dreams may just me a manifestation you have created from the words in the letters. If reading the letters is timing with the dreams, that is most likely what is fueling your mind while you sleep; especially if the letters are about good times and so are the dreams.
I don’t know how the relationship ended, but you need to keep in mind some time has passed. If you are considering reaching out to him, be considerate to his situation. He may be in a relationship now and this could mentally destroy what he has built. I know you agree that would not be fair to him.
If you really feel there is something strong and the possibility this time it can work, you should be open and share that. If you have any doubts, reflect on an amazing time in your life and look to the future.
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